What happens when you ask an appreciative question?
"Other people are your best guarantee of Raising your happiness, lowering stress and improving your focus"
Dr Professor Barbara Fredrickson, has found that it takes just a micro-moment to genuinely connect with somebody in ways that can improve your happiness. Her studies suggest that a positive emotion shared is much better than a positive emotion experienced alone. And this is particularly true if you can synch up your bio-behaviors by making eye contact or matching vocal tone to the person you’re interacting with. In these moments of “positivity resonance” you mirror the way each other is feeling, the way each other’s brains are working, and as a result you start to see the other person as an extension of yourself, creating an upward spiral of connection and trust between you.
When we are time-poor or annoyed by another it's often in these moments that relationships tend to falter. In the work by Dr. Gottman, he states that we often reject or ignore people unknowingly or knowingly and this has a detrimental effect on the happiness of not only our relationships to others but also to ourselves.
So how can we pull off authentic, positive connections with others if you’re not naturally outgoing or you spend a lot of your day with people you don’t really get along with?